Stop Using Krishn to Justify Your Manipulation

While doing my channeling today, my guides gave me one of the toughest questions I have ever received.

“Who are you to forgive?”

The question stayed with me.

For a moment, it challenged everything I had believed.

Because aren’t we taught that forgiveness is one of the highest spiritual qualities?

“Forgive those who hurt you.”

“Forgive and move on.”

“Forgiveness brings peace.”

And yes, forgiveness is beautiful.

But today, I was invited to look one step deeper.

Not because forgiveness is wrong.

But because there is something even deeper than forgiveness.

Why do we forgive?

Most of us forgive because we believe someone has done something wrong.

“They made a mistake.”

“They realised their mistake.”

“They apologised.”

“So now, I forgive them.”

If we observe carefully, there is still a subtle separation.

One person is wrong.

One person is right.

One person becomes the giver of forgiveness.

And this is where the ego quietly survives.

The ego is incredibly smart.

Sometimes, even while we think we are dissolving it through forgiveness, we are unknowingly feeding it.

It silently whispers,

“I am the one who forgave.”

The role changes.

The identity remains.

And if the ultimate purpose of our spiritual journey is to become free from the ego, then perhaps there is another door waiting to be opened.

A beautiful story of Krishna and Satyabhama

There is a beautiful traditional spiritual narration about Lord Krishna and Satyabhama, connected with the Syamantaka Mani, the precious jewel.

A misunderstanding arose, and Satyabhama believed that Krishna had taken the Syamantaka Mani. She doubted him and kept her distance. Nearly a year passed before the truth was finally revealed.

Krishna had never taken the Mani.

When the truth came to light, Satyabhama was filled with remorse. She approached Krishna and asked him to forgive her.

Krishna’s response was profound.

He did not say,

“I forgive you.”

Instead, he simply said,

“I always knew I had not taken the Syamantaka Mani. I never lost sight of the truth. So tell me… what is there for me to forgive?”

Just pause with that.

He did not deny that the misunderstanding had happened.

He did not pretend that nothing had taken place.

But he also did not hold on to the identity of someone who had been wronged.

He remained established in the truth.

What does Vedanta invite us to see?

The Ashtavakra Gita is a conversation between Sage Ashtavakra and King Janaka.

Again and again, Ashtavakra points Janaka towards the Truth—not the changing truth created by the mind, but the Truth that simply is.

The more we become established in that Truth, the less we become identified with the stories created by the ego.

The event may have happened.

The lesson may still remain.

The boundary may still be necessary.

But the burden slowly disappears.

Not because we forced ourselves to forgive.

But because we are no longer living from the identity that was waiting to forgive.

The real freedom

Someone else’s actions belong to them.

What I continue carrying belongs to me.

Awareness is not about denying pain.

Awareness is not about pretending everything is okay.

Awareness is simply the willingness to see what I am still holding on to.

And in that seeing, something begins to dissolve.

Without effort.

Without force.

Without becoming “the forgiver.”

So… who are you to forgive?

Perhaps this is the deeper invitation.

Instead of asking,

“Should I forgive them?”

Pause and ask,

“Who is the one that wants to forgive?”

Is it awareness?

Or is it the ego, subtly finding another identity to hold on to?

The more deeply we inquire into this, the more the ego begins to loosen its grip.

And perhaps that is why my guides asked me this question today.

“Who are you to forgive?”

Maybe forgiveness is not the final destination.

Maybe freedom from the ego is.

And when we become established in Truth, forgiveness is no longer something we have to do.

It simply fades away, because there is no longer anyone left within us who needs to hold on, prove, resent… or forgive.